I should have won it.....

'Should've, would've, could've, but didn't!' - Maria Sharapova post-match interview a few years back at the US Open following her exit to the tournament. Rather like that - a no blame, no excuses response to a loss.

'I'm just disappointed with myself - I should have ended it (Djokovic's current unbeaten run) tonight' - Andy Murray, last night after his defeat by Djokovic in the semi-finals of the Rome Masters.

I find myself interested in the language we use on these occasions. Murray should NOT have won - what I mean is, he had no RIGHT to win (and I'm well aware he knows this) so perhaps I'm picking holes with words, but in the realms of the mental game they are so important. What Andy was probably trying to communicate was, 'I could have won if I had made more first serves at 5-4 up in the 3rd set and avoided those two double faults.' This kind of statement echoes the rules of results that I've recorded in this blog before.

1. You can't control your results, only influence them
2. The results you are getting are the results you should be getting
3. If you want to change your results, you'd better do something different

So often I hear players, managers, coaches in post-match interviews saying, 'We should have won, we/I were the better team/player on the day.'

NO, NO and NO again. You were beaten, you were not the better player on the day. That's why we have a scoring system in sport and a winner and a loser. Your opponent had every right to fight, to give 100% effort, to make life difficult for you, to ride their luck, and if you lost, it's the score that suggests who was best on the day.

Fantastic match though - we had friends round to dinner and I switched the TV off at a set and 2-2 in the second, anticipating it would be over by the time we had eaten. Not so, hour and a half later and we enjoyed the rest of the match from 4-4 in the third. 38 matches and counting for Djokovic - Nadal today, I wonder if he'll have the legs for it.......

Do you want the ball?

Just watched the Barcelona v Real Madrid Champion's league Semi Final first leg. Drama for mostly the wrong reasons as so often seems the case in football nowadays, but there was a moment I really enjoyed. Real had a free kick some distance out. The camera focused in for a split second onto the Barca goalie Victor Valdes. His face told a wonderful story - one of him wanting the ball, relishing the opportunity to be involved in the game and to show what he could do. It was a face of excitement, one of 'this is my moment' and I'm ready!

The best performers want the ball, whether it was Michael Jordan with a last second jump shot to win the NBA title, Pete Sampras throwing down the gauntlet to Andre Agassi with another ace, or indeed Lionel Messi putting Real Madrid out of their misery with a mazy 30-yard run and finish in the closing stages of tonight's game.

When the big moments arrive, do you?

Amelia joins in the success!

Amongst Everyball players hitting the headlines last week was Amelia Barton who won her first Girls 12&U Tournament at Chesham 1879 (LTA grade 4).
Amelia beat a Mary Smith 6-1, 6-1 then in the final she beat Lucy Johnson 6-2, 6-1. Great job Amelia who is pictured below with Chesham 1879 Head Professional Simon Dunford.

Everyball players rule at Ricki and Dunne takes on Khromacheva in France

A number of Everyball players had a successful week at the LTA Grade 3 event at Rickmansworth, Hertfordshire.

Daniel Dean beat Patrick Evens 4-1 4-2 in the Boys 10&U Singles, No. 1 seed Michael Shaw won the Boys 12&U singles beating No. 2 seed Salil Navapurkar in straight sets. Two Everyball players featured in the 16&U Girls Final, with Victoria Pisani beating Holly Hutchinson 6-3 7-6 (both pictured below). Gavin McKinlay won the 18&U title and Tom Miller the Mens Title. In the Boys 18&U doubles final, James Blane and Jack Mordey beat the No. 1 seeds Mark Barnes and Luke Willis, winning 10-8 in the third set tie-break. Great job also to Claudia Marsala who had an excellent run at the Grade 2 event in Sutton.

This week, Halton's Everyball players compete across the country, from Maidenhead to Nottingham, whilst Katy Dunne continues to fly the international flag with her third week on the trot in the South of France. Today she plays doubles against Irina Khromacheva, the world's 18&U number 8.

Deep waters...

I liked this little piece from 'The Fighter's Mind: Inside the Mental Game' by Sam Sheridan.

Deep waters are the moments when a great fighter is facing a superior athlete, a man who has spent his whole life honing lethal skills, in front of millions of people, where the great fighter is fighting better than he ever has before, better than anyone thought possible and the other guy is still coming.

The puncher relies on his big punching. He hits guys and they go down. As he works his way up through the boxing rankings, this is the law of the land - he hits them and they disappear. Now he gets to his first title fight, his first big fight, and he hits his opponent - boom - and the guy is still there. The guy can handle the punch and keeps coming. So the puncher hits him again, but the other guy is still there. Now comes the crucible for the puncher. Does he go to pieces? Or does he buckle down and keep fighting? Can he find a way to win?

Dave Hagler, USPTA Master Pro, comments on this: 'Deep waters exist not just for great fighters, but for all of us. You hit big serves that shouldn't come back, but they come back. You hit a shot and expect a defensive return, but the opponent attacks. You expect an opponent to go away, but he fights back harder. It is my theory that in every tennis match, the player who is ahead, or dominating play at some point consciously or unconsciously, expects the opponent to give up. If you are behind and don't give up, you might find that your opponent may not be willing or able to continue to battle, and the tide will turn in your favour.'

I so agree. Who or what are you battling today? Keep fighting for every ball, the tide could be ready to turn and you need to be THERE when it does!

Is this boring?

Is this boring? Working on the same thing that you did yesterday, and the day before, and the day before that. Putting in the hard yards, the monotonous practice required to become the best. We want it now, instantly, not really being prepared to recognise that in this instant, I'll have it now, internet-smart phone driven world, still the mother of all learning is repetition.

Vince Lombardi, the great American Football coach once said:

'This is not easy, this effort, day after day, week after week, to keep the hunger alive, but it is essential. Each week there is a different challenge, but there is also that unavoidable degree of sameness to these sessions that players need to accept and embrace.'

Some traditions die hard.

Competition is a choice

Paul Dent and Keith Reynolds in their 'Tennis Coaches Tool Kit' talk in detail about the 'real deal of competitive tennis'. This is based upon the fact that competition is a choice. We choose to put ourselves into the competitive arena – at least I hope we do and that no one is forced to do so! As obvious as this sounds, I'm not entirely sure we all subscribe to this idea. I talk to so many players who walk off court with excuse after excuse. Wind, rain, bad calls by the opponent/umpire/whoever else, the opponent 'zoned,' hit a lucky let-cord on set-point, courts were slippery, too fast, too slow....blah, blah, blah!

What else did you expect?

This is the playing field. If you enter the event you also agree that any/all/none of these things might happen on the day. Acceptance of 'what might happen' at the point of entry makes dealing with tough moments along the way (and they'll happen for sure) much easier.

In accepting what might happen before you step onto the court, I'm reminded of the job advert that the great explorer Sir Ernest Shackleton posted in The Times of London in 1901, calling for volunteers for an Antartic expedition:

'Men wanted for hazardous journey. Small wages. Bitter cold. Long months of complete darkness. Constant danger. Safe return doubtful. Honour and recognition in case of success.'

Those that made the choice to sail with Shackleton did so with full knowledge of what might happen on the journey. As competitors in a different arena we can do the same and that pre-match inoculation is a vital tool in maintaining emotional control and composure during the inevitable challenges that will present themselves.

Act it out!

I have explored in an earlier blog my thoughts around what it means to be competitive, and one of my 10 key qualities in this is our ability to demonstrate body language that shows confidence, fight, and a 'I can handle anything you throw at me' attitude. Let's just look a little further into this.

As coaches we talk so often about the importance of body language on court and for good reason. We know that thoughts (self talk) move our feelings (emotions/ attitude), and feelings move our behaviour (actions/performance), but it's also important to recognise that this works in reverse as well, so when we act out the appropriate behaviour, we can in turn move our attitude and thinking.
So in this, we need to develop great 'acting ability' as performers. Great actors get us to 'buy' in with our emotions, because the emotions they display are real. There is a direct physiological response to a well acted out behaviour. Therefore, acting out body language that shows confidence, fight and a 'I can handle anything you throw at me' attitude will in turn engender those feelings and thoughts. Walking tall, shoulders back, a clench of the fist or slap of the thigh – these are simple tools to help get those competitive juices flowing, especially on a day when they are not coming naturally.

The best performers, those who meet their own expectations under pressure, are also the best actors. They are so in touch with their own emotions and feelings that they know just when to increase or decrease arousal levels. I would suggest that more often or not this is achieved through well acted out behaviours - body language and breathing being critical in this.

Of course this is not just an 'on the sports field' deal. We can use this day in day out to help lift our attitudes and spirits on days when, well, we just don't feel like it...


What's your value?

A guy called Rob Bell said this: 'We pick up from a young age from the world around us that it's about winning. It's about impressing. We pick up that our worth and our value and our significance come from how good we are, how smart we are, how skilled, how better, how competent. And we quickly realise that the way to get ahead is to raise yourself up, to take the path of ascent. To climb higher and higher.'

For those of us involved in performance sport there is a tension here - we struggle, work, and fight each day to get better, to improve, and certainly within the realms of professional sport, to improve our chances of winning and earning a living. Yet we probably know deep down that drawing our worth as human beings from this pursuit is fruitless at best and devastating at worst. Establishing worth, value and significance as a person because you are better, stronger, faster, smarter than the next person will increase insecurity and decrease self-esteem. Why? Well, simply put you will be eclipsed or beaten at some stage, NO MATTER WHAT. It's very much like having a fixed mindset in your own ability (when you perceive you have been given 'x' amount of this or that talent) - great if your abilities outweigh those of others, disastrous if they don't. A growth mentality, where potential is seen as the ability to develop skills with effort over time points towards your own personal journey in becoming the best you can be, regardless of anyone else.

So where does our self-worth come from, our significance and our value? Well, I've got a few ideas and thoughts, but perhaps I can leave you this week to consider this for yourself - I'd be interested to hear what you come up with.

Have a great week.

Update from Everyball at Halton

Nice work by Scarlett Hutchinson (pictured below being congratulated by team-mate Lara Hill!!!) who won the regional 'Orange' tournament at Esporta Northwood on the 6th of March playing some smart tennis and serving well.  She won her box by beating Ella Drake, Lara Hill (Everyball/Halton), and Lillian Mould from Warwickshire.  In the semis she beat Naomi Brown and in the final beat Lillian again with a very solid performance.  Excellent work Scarlett - well done!

Also over the weekend a big congratulations to the Bucks Girls U18 County Cup team who gained promotion into Group 2 (out of 7) with wins over Northumberland, Cheshire and Derbyshire.  Alex Clark, Bucks number 1 and and team captain said, 'We fought really hard under pressure and stayed composed in tough situations.  All the girls gave 100% and we had amazing team spirit - the loudest by far!'.  Well done to all the Bucks girls which involved many from Halton's Everyball Academy - Alex Clark, Tor Pisani, Claudia Marsala, Alice Patch, Ruby Brady, Annabel Westermann and Holly Davies (from Milton Keynes David Lloyd but on occasions accesses training with EBI).