Nice to see former Halton/Everyball girls represented in this list! Keep pushing on ladies!
My wife despairs at my relentless drive to maintain a positive attitude. ‘You try living with him’ is her stock line to friends as I throw quote after quote at her. Even I can see that it can get tiresome! I know I’m going over-board when my son corrects his teacher saying, ’no miss, the saying isn’t “practice makes perfect,” its "practice makes permanent!’"
And we do talk a lot in sport about positive attitude. But what does attitude really mean? Jung described it as ‘the readiness of the psyche to act or react in a certain way’. I like that definition, and perhaps more specifically ‘our readiness to act or react in a positive way’. Got me thinking; am I ready to act or react in a positive way today and what are the barriers towards me doing so? The answers might be as simple as fatigue (for me I’m suffering the effects of jet lag with another morning being wide awake at 5am!) or they may be a little deeper or complex. Either way, identify what might be the barriers towards you acting or reacting in a positive way today and the battle is half-won! And let’s face it, some days we’ve gotta work just that little bit harder at it than others. Jemima King (Everyball Coach and Head of our Aspire to Excel programme) calls this ‘emotional endurance’ - the ability to stay positive as fatigue and other factors creep in! So today, we can be victims or we can be volunteers. It is really our choice!
Have a positive day! Mike
You're right, not the normal greeting for this time of year, but for the year to 'bear fruit' it must be challenging. For it to be challenging you've got to set yourself some outcome or learning goals where your reach just exceeds your grasp, where failure is possible, where you have to choose between playing to win and playing not to lose!
Paul Tough writes in his recent book How Children Succeed that the essential ingredient is encountering adversity in childhood and learning to overcome it. He writes that children in the lowest strata of society are so beset by challenges and starved of recourses that they don't stand a chance of experiencing success. But, here's another paradox, kids at the top of the heap, who are raised in cosseted settings, praised for being smart, bailed out of predicaments by helicopter parents, and never allowed to fail or overcome adversity on their own initiative, are also denied the character building experiences essential for success later in life. A kid who's born on third base and grows up thinking she hit a triple is unlikely to embrace the challenges that will enable her to discover her full potential. A focus on looking smart keeps a person from taking risks in life, the small ones that help people rise toward their aspirations, as well as the bold, visionary moves that lead to greatness. Failure, as Carol Dweck tells us, gives you useful information, and the opportunity to discover what you're capable of doing when you really set your mind to it. (From 'Make It Stick)
Everyball Tennis programmes begin at our various sites this week where our sport, at whatever level you play, provides you with the unique opportunity to learn and grow and have fun.
So make it a goal this year to embrace failure as a positive step to learning as you commit to fight for every ball, to run down every ball and to play every ball with courageous purpose. See every ball as an opportunity to explore your 'becoming self', your curiosity and creativity, and know that 'everyball' extends beyond our sport as you learn and refine the fundamental life-skills that enable you to thrive in an ever-changing world.
Make 2015 an 'Everyball' year. Come and join us - firstname.lastname@example.org, James Morgan (Programmes Manager/Halton Head Coach) 07981 152818, Danny West (Tring Head Coach and now a Daddy!) 07748 633671, and Mike James (Director/Founder) 07958 008312
My challenge over the holiday period was an ocean swim on New Year's eve morning at 6.30 am (in warm climes dare I say!) that has inspired me to do a 10k open water swim in the UK this summer. Wet suit here we come!